I need to throw in a plug for the remarkable people that my children are becoming. Every once in a while, I turn up the sap on this blog and make some of you cry on the GO train. Today might be one of those days.
Let’s start with a little back-story…..
Since my children were very small, we’ve piggy-backed an idea from my sister-in-law in regards to their money and finances. We use a three-jar system; one jar for “savings,” one jar for “spending,” and one jar for “charity.” Any money that comes into my kid’s hands, everything from birthdays or shovelling neighbour’s snow or the quarters that Grandma and Grandpa hide around the house when they come for a visit, gets divided into three equal parts and put into their jars.
The “savings” jar gets taken into the bank a couple of times per year and they see their bank balance grow. The “spending” jar can be used for whatever their hearts desire, from Beyblades to Pokemon, video-games to candy. And although I encourage them to think long term and “save up” for a special purchase, they are young enough that the spending jar rarely gets above $15. The third jar, arguably the most important, is the “charity” jar. They know that this is the jar that we use to help others, and it’s another tool that we, as parents, are utilizing to try to grow our children into compassionate, caring adults. This weekend showed me that it’s working.
We were watching the news coverage of Hurricane Florence. I have a close friend who lives in North Carolina, so Florence has been at the top of my mind for awhile now. As we watched, I was texting with my friend, and was relieved to hear that she was safe and relatively unaffected. My kids sat there watching the devastation on TV, whispering to each other on the couch before heading upstairs conspiratorially. They came down with their charity jars in hand: “Mom, we want to give our charity money to the people affected by the Hurricane,” they said.
In years past, we’ve donated to whatever cause is closest to our hearts. My husband and I have a “charity jar” too, and a few times a year, depending on the circumstances of our world, we give it out accordingly, usually pooling the kid’s charity money in with ours. We’ve given to friends fallen on hard times, needy families at Christmas, natural disasters, the Canadian Cancer Society, the Food Bank, and most recently, to the Humboldt Broncos tragedy. We always talk about this giving with our kids, putting our money where our mouths are, and my son has taken to asking if we can bring our “charity” money whenever we go to BlueJays games so that he can pass it out to those in need along the PATH system. So when they came downstairs with their jars, my heart swelled with pride; $86 is headed down to the Hurricane Florence rescue efforts, but there’s been far more than $86 worth of lessons learned.
Good job, my babies.
Be kind. Always.