I’ll be Home for Christmas

Yes, it’s true!  It’s an Alberta Christmas for us this year.  We alternate Christmases between Sundre, Alberta and Burlington, Ontario; Alberta Christmases always make me feel peaceful and nostalgic.  I hope the holiday season is safe and happy for you as well, and filled with memory-making with your loved ones.  Merry Christmas!

AshleyW0004

Family photo is courtesy of Sarah Martin Photography.

I’ll be Home for Christmas

I’ll be home for Christmas
You can plan on me
Please have snow and mistletoe
And presents on the tree.

Christmas Eve will find me
Where the love light gleams
I’ll be home for Christmas
If only in my dreams.

Then the most incredible thing happened.

The most incredible thing happened at my gym last week.

It was an 8pm workout on a Monday night.  I had come straight from a busy day at work, and dragged myself there somewhat begrudgingly.  It was cold, it was windy, it was snowy.  I hadn’t eaten dinner yet and the assigned workout did not play to my strengths.  My couch was calling my name.

I went through the warm-up, some burpees and duck-walks and bear crawls, all things I love to hate.  Onto mobility.  Shoulder mobility.  The majority in attendance took their pullup bands to the main rig to begin going through the drills.  Myself and two others ended up on the other side of the gym, away from the group.

“Do you blog for Momstown?” she said.

I turned my head to see a friendly face that I didn’t recognize.  “Yes I do” I replied, “how do you know that?”

“I’ve been following your blog.  In fact, you’re one of the main reasons I decided to come here.”

You should’ve seen my face.  I was shocked and floored and flattered all rolled into one.  She went on to explain that she’s been reading my blog regularly and since I blog about Crossfit often, okay very often, she wanted to try it herself.

“I thought to myself, she’s a mom, she works, and she can do this stuff.  So can I!” she said.

So there you have it.  All this time I’ve been writing… all 82 posts… all those should-I-publish-this or shouldn’t-I-publish-this moments were worth it.  Because it made a positive effect.  It did some good.  It helped someone.  I’ve been writing this blog because I love to write, I love to share my views, I love to see the feedback.  I love the encouragement and the criticism and the debate.

Then the most incredible thing happened.

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I Wanna do this Right

***This post was originally written as a Guest Blog post for Momstown.ca.***

I’ve had lots of talks with lots of girlfriends.  I’ve had lots of talks with lots of girlfriends who are moms.  They are moms and daughters and sisters and friends.  This is what I’ve learned:

  • Don’t expect your kids to be perfect.  Perfection is an unattainable and dangerous myth that breeds over-worked, over-stressed, unhappy adults.
  • Pressure is the ratio of force to the area over which that force is distributed.  Children are small.  Keep the pressure small.  High pressure awaits them in adulthood.
  • Don’t make your daughters seek approval, or they will seek it in men.  Don’t make your sons seek approval, or they will seek it in women.  Give praise freely and without condition.
  • Keeping up appearances is not healthy for anyone.  Show your true self and allow your children to do the same.  Be proud of what you are and of what you aren’t.
  • “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.”  Remember Thumper the rabbit?  Think about that the next time you tell your child to colour inside the lines.  There is a difference between criticism and suggestion.  Remember what really matters.

I’ve got two young children.  I’ve got one chance.  I wanna do this right.

AshleyW0013