Sarah happened

You know those times in life when everything seems to be piling on, coming all at once, one thing after another?  We’re in the middle of one of those times.  A few curveballs thrown our way, some extra stressors, and more than a few tears shed.  Here we are, amidst the ups and downs of life, the ebbs and flows, the peaks and valleys.  Things will calm down and ‘normal’ will return.  But Wednesday was a particularly trying day….. until Sarah happened.

Have I told you about Sarah?  She’s my sister.  Well, not technically a sister; she’s actually a sister-like friend who has been beside me through all things life and love since we were twelve.  For ten years now, she’s lived in Washington, DC, and I in Burlington, Ontario.  Ten years being more than 700kms apart, and I can honestly say that our friendship hasn’t changed much.  We don’t see each other as often, but we’re in touch almost daily, and when we get together it seems we were never apart.

On Wednesday morning, I came home with my kids and found a package at our front door.  Addressed to my daughter, sent by Auntie Sarah, we raced inside and my toddler excitedly opened up her treasure.  And there, inside the box, was a fuzzy pink Build-A-Bear…. wearing glasses.  photo 2-3The note explained that Casey and her new bear can wear their new glasses together; the empathy of a stuffed animal.  For those keeping track, my 2-year-old daughter has just been diagnosed with amblyopia, and will require glasses and daily eye-patching to ‘teach’ her left eye to function.  But Sarah happened.  She’s a plane-ride away and she managed to feel my worry, to support my daughter, to help us out, to make me better.

How do I explain to her the power of her gesture?  How can I convey what that meant to me, what it meant for Casey?  The tenderness she shows my children warms my heart like only family can.  Sarah’s currently pregnant with her first baby, expecting her little boy to arrive in June.  It’s true what they say about a mother’s love, you know… how it’s a love like no other.  She will feel that in June.  And when she’s having a rough day and emotions are running high, I hope I’ll be able to return the favour.  Maybe then she’ll really understand how much it meant that Sarah happened.

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What Happens in Vegas…

I am going to Las Vegas this weekend.  To see Britney Spears.  Yes, I’m serious.

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I have been a Britney fan for a long time, albeit sometimes embarrassingly so.  “Hit Me Baby One More Time” was released in Oct/1998, at a time when I was in Second Year at the University of Calgary; I was young and impressionable, seeking independence and searching for my future, as most post-secondary students are.  Britney could be heard everywhere I was, from residence dorms to nightclubs to track practice.  Music has a way of becoming the soundtrack of memories, and many of my 20-something moments had a Britney song playing in the background.

But the best part, far better than any Britney show, is that I am meeting my two best friends there.  These girls are like my sisters; they are my confidantes, my this-is-who-I-am-and-you-know-me-so-well companions.  It’s going to be a short trip, only 48-hours from arrival to departure, jam-packed with dinners out, casinos, lounging poolside, shopping, and laughter.  Oh so much laughter.

You see, yearly girls trips for the three of us have been an almost-annual tradition for 15 years.  From Summer roadtrips to Vancouver to weekends in Edmonton to reunions at a small-town farm, these affectionately-named ASS Tours (Ashley/Sarah/Shannon) have been a constant in our lives, as our cities have changed and our families have grown.  Our 2011 meet-up was in New York City.  I will never forget it.  I will never forget it because I was broken when I arrived and pieced together when I left.  I had just suffered a devastating miscarriage and I left for NYC the day after my surgery.  And as the three of us walked through Central Park and sobbed and hugged and comforted and shared, I felt myself start to heal.  Piece by piece, they put me back together.  They helped me put myself back together.  As they have countless other times.  They’re those kind of friends.

My husband teases me about this girls trip.  He pokes fun at the teeny-bopper in me and smiles about my excitement.  But I can assure you, Britney’s audience will be full of 30-something mothers, just like us, singing along with nostalgia in their voices and dancing with happiness in their hearts… side by side with friends.


People and Memories and Love

Happy-Friendship-day-2013It was Friendship Day at the beginning of August and Best Friends Day in June.  Yes, you read that right.  But in amongst the busy-ness of our lives, friendship can fall by the wayside…. if we let it.

Dear Friend:

I know you are busy, I’m busy too.  I know that life is crazy and that schedules are hectic and that work is nuts.

To my overwhelmed, overworked friend: I can see that you’re struggling.  Let me help.  Talk to me.  Can we meet for a coffee?  Can we go for a walk?  Can we get our kids together and watch their innocent enjoyment of life?  Their oblivious fun?  Their unapologetic laughter?

Remember that time before careers and mortgage payments and children?  Remember feeling carefree?  And content?  And full of hope and excitement?  That’s the friend I remember.

Friendship needs two people to work, for one-way streets only lead to dead ends.  Where have you gone Friend?  Come back before it’s too late.  Come back before more time goes by and you look back and wonder where that time has gone by to.  That time is right in front of you now- today is here.

Think big picture, not small picture.  Don’t get caught up in the minutiae of life.  The big picture is people and memories and love. 

This advice may be unsolicited, Friend, and perhaps even unwanted.  It may be shunned and overlooked and ignored.  But it needs to be said, because I miss you Friend.  I really do.  And actions speak louder than words.  A phone call speaks louder than Facebook and Twitter, and yes, even a Blog.

Let’s talk.  Because I miss you Friend.  I really do.

With love from,

Your Friend.