Friday, June 19th, 6:25pm

“Please try not to spill it”

Leave a comment June 9, 2015 drworobec

“Please try not to spill it.” These words have come out of my mouth many times over the years, and I’m going to change that immediately. Here’s why:

Because confidence.
Because self-worth.
Because who has time to care about messes?

I have two impressionable little people under my care, and I think my most important job is to make sure that they believe in themselves. In their self-worth. In their abilities. In their importance.

“Please try not to spill it.”

The last time I said this, my newly three-year-old was carrying her plate from the kitchen counter to the table for lunch. This is a skill she’s just learning- to balance a plate of food while walking. She’s graduating from toddler to kid, and is starting to help out around the house with the little things she’s able to do. Expectations for my kids are age-appropriate, but when she sees her six-year-old brother doing things, she wants to be a big kid too. And I want to foster that.

“Please try not to spill it,” I said, as I passed her the plate. And I saw her hesitate. Just a little stutter-step, just a little pause, just a little self-doubt….. that I’d planted with my comment. My heart broke into a million pieces. I saw it happen: right before my eyes her mind shifted from the confident “I’m-a-big-girl,” while “Mommy-doesn’t-think-I-can-do-this” creeped in.

Now perhaps some of you are thinking that’s ridiculous. We need to parent our children, you say. We need to guide them, you say. We need to teach them, you say. And I believe this to be true. But please tell me why it would be necessary to say “please try not to spill it?” As if, by omitting this phrase, you would be encouraging the child to spill? As if the child would purposefully try to spill and fail? As if the child cannot make a mistake? “Please try not to spill it” does not need to be said because the child will already be trying not to spill it. Done and done.

Am I being too sensitive to this? Too emotional? Too picky? I don’t think so. I’m a sensitive soul and I know my kids. “Please try not to spill it” does not promote the self-confidence that I’m trying to cultivate in them. It does not add to their world and their worth. So it doesn’t make the cut.

Back to my earlier example, my daughter did not in fact spill her lunch, and she was very proud of herself for crossing the kitchen successfully. But if she had spilled, I would hope to use that as an opportunity for both of us to learn and grow. First, she was using a plastic children’t plate (like it would make a difference if the plate was breakable? ‘Wear the Dress Socks,’ remember?). Second, I can control my reaction so that it provides no fear component or worry about my approval. And third, and most notably, spills teach that people make mistakes. We clean up and move on. Life happens. And it’s often messy.

So I’m going to keep trying to set my children up for success, I’m going to keep trying to help them learn from their mistakes, and I’m going to keep trying to figure out this parenting gig.

“Children are great imitators, so give them something great to imitate. ~Unknown.”

7237

I Am a Chiropractor. Take two.

Leave a comment June 2, 2015 drworobec

1c25cea660395e6dd7a183c6208c9a2f I’ve been a chiropractor for nearly ten years. Ten years….. how did that happen so quickly? And as my practice has grown, I’ve been confronted with more and more misconceptions surrounding what it is that I actually do. These are some questions I’ve been asked in just the last couple of weeks (and if you click on the links, you’ll see I’ve written about all of them):

Do I treat children? Yes.
Do I treat muscular injuries? Yes.
Can I manage concussions and return-to-play protocols? Yes.
Do I think rehabilitation exercise is important for back pain? Yes.
Am I still accepting new patients? Yes.

In light of all this, I wanted to share with you a post that I wrote a couple of years ago when my blog was shiny and brand-new. This is my most-read post of all time. I hope that you enjoy it the second time around, and that it gives you a glimpse into the way that I work:

~~~

I am a chiropractor. But my definition of what a chiropractor is might be different than yours. Is that because of the broad range of chiropractors out there? Is that because of the assumptions and misnomers surrounding chiropractic? Is that because of the way that I practice chiropractic?

Maybe it’s all of the above… My first involvement with the chiropractic profession began when I was 21. Fresh off a Bachelor of Science from the University of Calgary, I still didn’t know what I wanted to ‘be when I grew up’. A friend of mine was a chiropractor and needed someone to work at the front desk of his clinic and I needed a job while I figured out my next step in life. Enter Fate, stage left. My path in life was suddenly clear. I would become a chiropractor. I sent off my application immediately, and began my four years at CMCC (Canadian Memorial Chiropractic College) that Fall.

I am a chiropractor.

This is what I do: I do treat pain related to the spine, pelvis, nervous system, and joints of the body. I do not only treat back pain and neck pain.

I use rehabilitation exercises, Active Release, acupuncture, Graston, and adjustments. I am a chiropractor who rolls around on the ground to demonstrate exercises. I am a chiropractor who watches you run if it hurts when you run, and who watches you throw if it hurts when you throw.

I do believe that the adjustment is a powerful tool, but it’s one of many and it’s not always appropriate. I do not only use adjustments when treating an injury.

I am a chiropractor who believes that less-invasive is better than more-invasive. I am a chiropractor who pays attention to research. I am a chiropractor who pays attention to my patients. I am evidence-based. I am holistic.

I do enjoy working with those who want to heal quickly and are willing to be an active participant in their care. I do not only treat sports injuries and athletes.

I am a chiropractor who makes you work. I am a chiropractor who doesn’t want to see you week after week for months.

I do believe that chiropractic can benefit children, and both my babies had their first chiropractic treatment when they were a few days old. I do not only believe that chiropractic can benefit adults.

I am a chiropractor who thinks that we should get our bodies checked like we get our teeth checked. I am a chiropractor who has been called a ‘body mechanic’. I am a chiropractor who thinks anatomy is fascinating.

I do agree that many patients can benefit from wellness/maintenance care, but this is not the case for everyone. I do not agree that ‘once you see a chiropractor once, you have to keep going’.

I am a chiropractor who thinks that you know your body better than I do. I am a chiropractor who will find the source of the injury, not the symptom of the injury. I am a chiropractor who will do my best to find a clear diagnosis and give you a careful explanation.

I am a doctor. I do think that the chiropractic profession needs to do a better job of communicating to the public, so that patients can select a chiropractor that can best meet their needs. I do not like that there is a great divide within our profession, leading to confusion surrounding what we can do.

I am a chiropractor who believes in a broad scope of practice. I am a chiropractor who keeps taking courses to broaden my knowledge and abilities. I am a chiropractor who thinks that chiropractic is not the answer for everything.

I am a chiropractor.